If my fiancee asked to have a threesome with another guy, I’d want to do something violent enough to make EatMeBeatMe blush.

Anal, however… what’s the harm in asking? My fiancee loves anal but we only do it every so often because it’s not really any better than straight vag, though it is very fun, and it is more difficult.

/dick joke

I’ll fuckin do it………

Of course it’s okay to ask. Just realize that you are not asking in a vacuum, so-to-speak. Anal and a threesome are about the two most common “racy” requests men make of their partners, so the woman you are asking has probably already heard that question from the majority of guys she has had sex with, and most of the mainstream porn she has seen. So, when she answers, regardless of whether she is into anal or a threesome, her reply is not to your question alone, but to the accumulated effect of all of those times she has been asked or felt socially influenced.

Imagine that every girl you have been with has asked you for a threesome with two guys, or to let her wear a strap-on. Also, imagine that a lot of the porn you’ve see involves the same. Now, imagine how you would feel when your current girl asks you for a threesome or for you to take a dildo in the rear. If you are into it, game on, right? If you feel like it on occasion or with a particular person, no problem really. If you aren’t into it, you are probably tired of hearing that question. Any way you look at it, though, it’s not catching you by surprise, and it doesn’t particularly strike you as the most novel thing you can do to spice up a rote sex life.

What you probably fail to realize is that she knows you’re breaking up, too. The nights your banging said hottie? Your girlfriend is getting her guts beat to death by an Alabama black-snake.

Hardly. The Lit forums are indwelled by the old clicque who seem absolutely convinced that they invented sex and everything that goes with it. Kind of like the entire site, actually.

/Off-Topic rant.

Oh no, that wasn’t for me personally, that’s just how it seems to come across in the mailbag. Guys ask and the girl is like “WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?!!!”
Sheesh, a guy is just asking.

Or maybe women in general (ie, those who aren’t actually in a porno) don’t like the suggestion that sex would be better with another pussy in there, like one isn’t good enough for you. As I suggested before, what if your girlfriend/wife requested another dude join you? What would your reaction to that be?

Personally I’d be fine with it, but yeah, I know 99% of all the guys in here go completely apeshit and won’t agree to that. Which is hypocritical, but hey, like I said, this site does attract a certain type of personality that I’m pretty sure is not representative of the population in general. :)

If you can honestly say it wouldn’t bother you at all to hear your wife or girlfriend essentially telling you that you just aren’t enough to do it for her, she really needs another dick in there, well, good for you.

Yeah but this is kind of what I’m getting at. Why is a request for a threesome AUTOMATICALLY a “Oh, I guess I’m not good enough!” situation to you (and most of the other girls here, it seems?)
Why wouldn’t it just be an idea to maybe get a bit kinkier romp going? Why does it HAVE to be “I’m not good enough?”

I see a request like that as just a way to add fun for BOTH of you, which is why I’d have no problem with bringing an extra dude into it. (though, of course, quid pro quo. She gets an extra dude, I get an extra chick! ;) )

Or the next time you ask a girlfriend/wife to accept your dick up her ass, you offer yours up first and provide the strap-on for her to use, so she can see by your example how awesome it is. Just sayin’.

Again with the harsh “WELL HOW ABOUT YOU DO IT FIRST?!”
What is wrong with a guy ASKING for it? Is it really that fucking bad if a guy asks for something? If you don’t want to, you say no. Or you say “Well, I’m worried that it’ll hurt,” and then you talk about it.

Why does it have to be so antagonistic?

Lots of men seem awfully quick to suggest threesomes and anal, when it’s their idea and happening exactly the way they want, but far fewer of them seem willing to reciprocate. Because, ew, that’d be gay or… something. I guess, I really don’t know what the deal is there.

Well, in the case of a strapon, I fail to see what a girl gets out of that, unless she’s the kind of person that wants to join eat me beat me lady in some funky whipping romps or something. For a guy it’s mostly the mental aspect, that a girl surrenders to you so much that she’ll do that, and partially because every guy has this idea that it’ll be wonderfully tight and would somehow miraculously feel better. (it doesn’t, guys, btw.)

Seems to me you shouldn’t ask someone to do something you wouldn’t be willing to do yourself.

Seems to be there’s no harm in asking. Otherwise you’ll both just lie there and have rote sex, both of you not enjoying what you’re doing, but you’re too fucking scared to ask for something else because you just might get your head bitten off. That seems an odd way of dealing with someone you like/love, but maybe that’s just me.

Also, this is one of the few mailbag subjects I actually have any useful advice on. I like this feeling.